You are your own person - be your own person .
Don't listen to what other people have to say too much. If you want to consider their advice, consider it and then make up your own mind. If you have already made up your mind on where you want to go don't let others deter you from following your heart. Sure, there are obstacles and things to be cautious about, but there is risk involved whenever there is potential reward. I don't give up on love, because of the potential reward, but I have recently also learned to protect my heart a bit more so I'm not hurt so much so often.
(my friend, Doug, took his own life on 10/30/08 - may he rest in peace)